Seksuele Molestering – Die Werklike Probleem By Charl Vorster

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Skokkende onkunde onder ouers en selfs opgeleide professionele hulpverleners oor die seksualiteit van jong kinders en die hantering van aangeleenthede soos beweerde seksuele molestering kom al hoe sterker na vore. In baie gevalle veroorsaak die wyse waarop sulke sake hanteer word juis die traumatisering van kinders pleks daarvan om dit te voorkom of te verlig.

Die ongelooflike onkunde oor aangeleenthede van ‘n seksuele aard by jonger kinders van owerheidskant het juis in die onlangse verlede ook geblyk uit die gewysigde Kinderwet wat seksuele gedrag tussen minderjarige kinders – en selfs ‘n soen – geklassifiseer het as strafbare misdadige gedrag! Gelukkig is hierdie belaglike wanpersepsie reggestel deur ‘n wysiging aan die Wet. Maar hierdie neiging om gedrag met ‘n seksuele konnotasie by jong kinders te wil vertolk as misdadig en strafbaar kom blykbaar baie wyer voor as net van owerheidswee en dit wil blyk dat grootskaalse opvoeding van ouers en selfs professionele werkers ‘n prioriteit behoort te wees.

‘n Mediese dokter het byvoorbeeld onlangs – sonder dat hy haar medies ondersoek het! -‘n kleuter verwys vir ‘n forensiese sielkundige ondersoek omdat sy ‘n onwilligheid getoon het om op die toilet te gaan sit! Die betrokke sielkundige na wie die geval  verwys is was stomgeslaan om te verneem dat die betrokke dokter nie eens by die ma navraag gedoen het oor of die kind hardlywig was of dalk ‘n branderigheid met urinering beleef het nie!

Gevalle kom gereeld voor waar hoogs bekommerde ouers hul na maatskaplike werkers of sielkundiges haas omdat hul vyf, ses of sewejarige kinders en ‘n maatjie betrap is dat hulle mekaar fisiek eksploreer – wat absolute normale gedrag van kinders van hierdie ouderdomsgroep is. Die ouers het blykbaar lank reeds vergeet hoe hulle op ‘n soortgelyke ouderdom “dokter-dokter” gespeel het!

Wat sake ongelukkig vererger is dat sommige van hierdie professionele hulpverleners self te geneigd is om gevaarligte te sien flikker en baie maklik terme begin rondgooi soos “molestering”, “verkragting” of “die skuldidge (“Perpetrator”) en by ouers ‘n prentjie skep van seksuele patologie en trauma, terwyl dit in die meeste gevalle gaan om jong kinders wat absoluut normale gedrag vir hul ouderdomsgroep vertoon.  Kinders word dan dikwels onderwerp aan druk om inligting te  verstrek oor wat “gebeur” het of wat “aan die kind gedoen is”, wat sodoende  ‘n “skuldige” en ‘n “slagoffer” (“victim”) skep. Andersinds gesonde kinders word in die proses getraumatiseer en die slagoffers van volwassenes se onkunde en onkundige hantering. Om die etiket van ‘n “verkragter” of “seksueel gemolesteerde” te dra kan in sommige gevalle ‘n persoon se hele toekomstige lewe beinvloed.

Kundige ouerleiding en deeglike kennis oor die ontwikkelingstadia waardeur kinders beweeg in die proses van opgroei is van wesenlike belang. Professionele hulpverleners het in hierdie opsig ‘n belangrike rol om te vervul en behoort ouers by te staan om koelkop te bly wanneer seksualiteit en seksuele gedrag by jong kinders ter sprake kom ten einde traumatisering van die betrokke kinders te voorkom. ‘n Groot vlieg in die salf is ook die betrokke artikel in die Kinderwet wat dit verpligtend maak om enige beweerde molestering van ‘n jong kind by die polisie aan te meld. Die voortspruitende polisieondersoek wat hierna volg is in die meeste gevalle uiters impakvol op al die betrokkendes en het dikwels ernstige traumatisering van die betrokke kind tot gevolg. ‘n Goed bedoelde besermingsmaatreel vir jong kinders het hier ongelukkig meestal net die teenoorgestelde uitwerking. Die wet behoort gewysig te word ten einde sodanige aanmelding steeds verpligtend te maak maar dan eerder aan sekere aangestelde maatskaplike werkers wat ‘n sensitiewe voor-ondersoek kan loods voordat die gereg sy lompe en hardhandige verloop neem (in die enkele gevalle wat dit werklik aangedui is!)

Teddy Bear Therapy: 10 – 11 April 2014

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Remember the upcoming Teddy Bear Therapy workshop!

We still have a few spaces left.

The workshop takes place on 10-11 April in Pretoria and will be co-presented by Larissa Ernst and Linda Dennis!

Definitely a not to be missed workshop if you are passionate about working with children!

Upcoming Workshop: Person Centered Interviewing

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Person Centred Interviewing Workshop

Psychologists say …

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Psychologists

Benefit of Empathy #1

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Carl Rogers

Feedback: IPA workshop (February 2014):

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This page of our blog will have food for thought and reflections on workshops from the Satori training team.

 

IPA

I feel that I have acquired a new skill that will enhance the therapy process;
Good balance between theory and practice;
I feel empowered and enthusiastic;
I feel that I have learnt something that will enhance the quality of therapy I do;
I feel I can start using the IPA in sessions;
I feel inspired and excited to practise the new IPA skills;
What I appreciated most was the practical examples and discussion;
The pace was just right;
I feel that I benefitted immensely in a practical way;
This was one of the best workshops I ever attended;
I feel empowered to use the IPA;
What I appreciated most was the interactive style of the presentation and the practical examples;
I feel truly enriched;
I really appreciated the way Larissa taught and gave clear feedback;
I feel like my journey is only beginning;
I have gained additional skills in observation of behaviour;
What I appreciated most was the experiential component of the workshop;
Loved it – Thank you Larissa and Satori. Fantastic course;
I appreciated the way the questions were addressed;
Excellent and will highly recommend it to other people working in the field of psychology.

Upcoming Workshops

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Our next workshop is:

Integrative Couples Therapy Workshop

 


      • Days

        13-14 March 2014 in Pta


      • Cost

        R1950.00


      • CEU’s

        14 points

 

This is a practical hands-on course in couples therapy that will focus on optimizing the interaction and communication between individuals in a dyadic relationship.  This is a short term, powerful intervention that will effect significant change within two to six sessions.

Training in the IPA is a prerequisite for this course.

To book your place for this workshop, click booking enquiries in the top right of this post.

To see the other workshops we have on offer click right here.

In Loving Memory of Prof Charl Vorster

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Charl Vorster

Visit our memoriam of Prof Charl Vorster (1946-2014). Here, we honour Charl in many different ways. If you have a story, memory, quote or something humorous, contact us, and maybe we can add it to our blog as your memory of Charl.

 

Welcome Linda Dennis

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EXCITING NEWS!!!!

Passionate Clinical Psychologist, Linda Dennis, is officially joining our training team!!

Linda is known within the Satori family for her unique and beautiful story telling skills! She’s excited to share her expertise with you on the upcoming Teddy Bear therapy workshop – 10-11 April 2014!!

Welcome on board, Linda!
We look forward to the journey with you, Benny Bear and the wise old Uncle Owl!

Charl Vorster’s Books For Sale on Kalahari.com

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GREAT NEWS!!!

As of today Charl Vorster’s two books are on sale on Kalahari.com! Visit Kalahari.com and search for Charl Vorster or click on the book links below. or you can buy the books online here.

Vorster, C. GST. ISBN 9780620294881 IMPACT